Kay Smythe gets a lot of reader feedback. Most of it on our Facebook page. Our weekly columnist has a wicked sense of humor, and is unafraid to express her opinion, so it’s expected she’s going to get reactions to her articles.
We asked her to reply to some of the comments her pieces have received. She happily obliged. Well, maybe “happily” is the wrong word. Grudgingly. We’ll go with grudgingly. Below are her responses to comments we clearly cherry picked for fun reading. Enjoy
This piece generated the most feedback of any article Kay ever wrote. The ones below are some of the tamer comments.
Phillip W Sheridan II: He doesn’t need to know shit, he’s the boss.
Kay Smythe: He has to know something if he’s the boss. If he doesn’t know anything, then he should probably be in a different position, or unemployed, or a Kardashian…
Samantha Belfitt: I can see why it would get angry responses. Yes there are bosses out there like that but they are a small minority. I have had good bosses and bad. Tbh the worst bosses I have had were women.
Todd Bennett: Samantha Belfitt, I agree with you. I have had 2 female bosses in my life and they are the only 2 jobs I have ever quit. One because of sexual harrasement and the other due to harrasement and action unbecoming of a superior
Kay Smythe: Everyone has had great and terrible bosses. As a to-order content writer, I spent most of my youth, along with the early days of my career in America, dealing with bitchy male bosses. I’ve noticed that British male bosses are significantly worse than their American counterparts, and have even ghost-written PhD dissertations on these subjects. What we should always remember when it comes to Underemployment and particularly awful bosses is that no matter how much we hate them, their spouses, mothers, and probably their kids will hate them more. This also goes for female bosses.
I once had the misfortune of working under the Swansea department head of Phase Eight clothing. She was arguably the worst individual I have ever had to socialize near. I was only sixteen or seventeen at the time, and was going through some special classes (Called A-Level) in order to go to university.
This bitch just didn’t understand that when asked to decide between a boring Saturday job and my educational future, I was obviously going to pick the latter. It became so terrible that I quit – which is the only job I have ever quit (I’ve always left because I’ve moved away). I had to have a representative in my final meeting, and since my family attorney wasn’t available, I brought my mum. I don’t know if you guys have ever met a Welsh mother, but lets just say that my soon-to-be ex-boss left the meeting in tears.”
Bryan Beamish: Did her first point actually ask her boss to treat her like a child? This doesn’t sound like a very professional person, regardless of gender.
Kay Smythe: “It didn’t, but you can re-read it if you like.”
This article’s title tells you all need to know.
Chris Maxwell: So… she tells women they shouldn’t be bitches… then signs her article “Kay Smythe, the British Bitch in America”? I guess they’re supposed to do as she says, not as she does!
You know what men love even more than feminine, attractive, submissive women? Women like that who encourage other women to also be like that. Which is what she does in this article… funny how it got published 😉
Then we have this FUCKING gem, lmao: “…this is based on SCIENCE, and certainly not on opinion. For legal reasons, I am unable to reference my sources.”
It’s funny, because she doesn’t even give any data, or explain the “legal reasons”. So when you’re searching for the studies using her suggestions at the end of the article, there are no key phrases you can keep an eye out for while you’re fact-checking, nothing like “one study found that x% of women experienced slower career advances when they predominantly behaved/dressed in the following ways blah blah blah”.
What legal reasons could there possibly be for not citing? The only thing I could think of would be that she accessed pay-to-view journals illegally, so citing them would potentially get her in hot water. More likely, she just made the whole thing up.
Which doesn’t mean it’s wrong per se, but I would note that it’s wrong because many men (like many women) are easily threatened or easily manipulated or both. I had an easily threatened boss once, who happened to be female, who fired me because she thought I was “after her job”. Well, sure, in an abstract sense, but lady, just because I want a promotion doesn’t mean I want you to be unemployed. I don’t have to have your position here, I can obtain a similar position elsewhere, or in a different field, etc. Calm down.
Kay Smythe: Hey Chris! First of all, I love your energy. Any time I get male feedback on a female-orientated piece, I always make sure my editor lets me know. I’ve taken to never reading my comments (mostly because I’m not paid to.) (Ed* note- That is true. We’d like to pay her extra to look at her comments, but the bulk of our money is spent on Lysol for the bathroom.) so I’m glad he brought your essay to my attention.
I’m only going to address one major point in your response, because I honestly don’t have time for all of them today. When it comes to my sources, as a ghost-writer of PhD dissertations(click here to read my article about it) I have signed every waiver and NDA and whatnot under the sun to ensure that my clients and their research are kept totally secret.
The information I gathered for this article was based on a number of studies into female empowerment, leadership, and various other forms of employment in the United States. My role within the PhD writing is based predominantly around composing the literature review section, which is usually the second chapter of the study. This means I am given the first chapter, and sometimes I’ll have additional documents relating to the study. What my clients, and subsequently I have found, is that in scientific data, women are often found to be least liked, appreciated, and respected in the workplace when they act like their male counterparts.
Whether it be nursing, education, leadership theory, the corporate world, or even in marriage and other human relationships, women are always found to earn less, and are frequently found to fail when it comes to promotions if they mirror their male counterparts. This is largely due to the male control over promotion (and sometimes female). Again, I have to stress that this is not based on my opinion, but the opinion of scholars, educators, scientists, and the new doctorates of these subjects in the United States.
If you would like to conduct your own research into this subject, then I highly recommend using a simplistic search engine like Google Scholar, using only data from 2013 onwards (anything prior is considered scientifically redundant) and keeping to key words like perceptions of women in work, and variants on this.”
Rusty Shackleford: She’s a know it all from her degree in geography whose better then everyone, hates being around people and thinks she’s gods gift in debates, not surprised she’s underemployed.
Kay Smythe: “Hi Rusty! I’m not sure if we know each other personally, but I recommend reading my piece on my work in ghost writing PhD dissertations. I also don’t necessarily consider myself to be underemployed. This is largely due to readers like yourself who help keep The Underemployed Life going. Thanks for your feedback, and make sure you don’t approach me in public.
Xander Graves: It takes a Brit to tell the truth Americans so desperately ignore.
Kay Smythe: Thank you, Xander. I agree.
Kay details how she makes the bulk of her money in this intriguing piece.
Judith Sari: It can’t pay that well. Graduate students aren’t exactly rolling in cash. If I’m wrong, please correct me.
Kay Smythe: You’re wrong. Consider yourself corrected.
Kay’s first article for us, and it’s a doozy.
Annoyed: Then don’t write for them. It seems like a pretty obvious answer.
Kay Smythe: Fucking genius over here…
Kay Smythe, The British Bitch in America.
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