You’ll remember my friend Sam, from my online dating article where I shared what he told me was the missing piece of my online dating puzzle. Namely, “men don’t wanna talk to you online, they only want to meet you.” That was a bombshell dropped on me. It was like that episode of Sex in The City where Carrie’s boyfriend, Berger, tells Miranda “he’s just not that into you,” and her whole world changes in an instant!
Well, Sam dropped this second bombshell on me yesterday and I have some mixed emotions about it. He said, “Women do not really want equality and men do not really want an independent woman.” Sam says, “if women really want equality then they must understand that professional equality directly informs social equality. Basically, men are much less likely to treat with kids gloves that which he now views as equal.”
Sam isn’t claiming that this is just. But he does feel that when men no longer feel the need to provide for those around them, due to the independence of those around him, men tend to not feel the urge to nurture those around him socially. Be it right or wrong, the closer we get to being equal to men professionally, the less likely they will feel the urge to treat us as “princesses”.
“There are some serious misconceptions as to what an independent woman really is and as to what she wants, and what feminism actually is.”
