1. Most of the time we think you’re a prick
Sorry, but this is true. My last three office jobs were with male bosses. You are a boss, and you should treat all female employees like your daughters. When we start in your company, we are there to grow. Don’t patronize us, because we’ll get pissed off. Show us the same respect you would your own child. That means no comments about clothing, no pointing out that our dresses might be a particular length, and definitely no comments on make up. Comments like this do not make us feel empowered, they make us think you’re a prick. Tell me my work is great, not my dress. Congratulate me on the project I just managed, not that my legs are looking skinny today. That’s none of your fucking business.
2. We have noticed your boys club
You can be all buddy-buddy with the lads in the office, but don’t do it in front of us. The last time this happened, my manager was standing in my office attempting to rip me apart as if I were one of the lads. It backfired because he was standing over me with five other men behind him, who he was friends with outside of work. They made fun of me, my clothes, my attitude, even my hair. I mean, what the fuck? I don’t want to be in your fucking boys club, because I honestly think you’re all philistines, but I wouldn’t mind having a laugh with you. I just don’t understand how it’s funny when you’re all attacking one person. You don’t do that within your boys club. You all laugh at each other, but now you’re all laughing at me, and that sucks. I shouldn’t have to deal with this as an adult manager in a professional setting. Go the fuck away and circle jerk in your boys club in private.